Top 10 Lesson learned from rom book -The Magic of Thinking Big
Believe You Can Succeed And You Will When you have an “I-can-do-it” attitude, the how-to-do-it traits develops in your mind. Believing that you WILL succeed is the one of the basic and essential traits of successful people.
Schwartz says that it is great to admire and respect the leader; study and observe them. However do not worship them. Aim to be better than them.
How you see yourself, is how others see you.
Think success, not failure. Remind yourself regularly that you are better than you think you are. Believe Big. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief.
Stop Making Excuses The common excuses people make are;
Age: I’m too young/old Health: I’m not well Intelligence: I’m not smart enough Luck: I’m not lucky enough When it comes to your health be genuinely grateful about your health, it is better to wear out then rust out.
We sometimes underestimate our own brain power, and overestimate others. Don’t. The ability to think is much greater than the ability to memorize facts.
Eliminate the habit of making excuses; see reasons why you can succeed. The right attitude and one arm will beat the wrong attitude and two arms every time.
Build Confidence & Destroy Fear Action cures fear. Indecision, delays on the other hand, feed fear. You should deposit only positive thoughts into your memory.
Think & Dream Creatively Big people monopolise listening. Small people monopolise talking. Top leaders spend more time requesting advice than they do in giving it.
You Are What You Think You Are As a leader the way you think towards your job determines how those around you think towards their jobs. Look important.
Think your work is important. Use the technique of “selling-yourself-to yourself”.
Manage Your Environments The company you surround yourself with will surely have an impact on your success. It is up to you to surround yourself with people who uplift you and whose presence calls forth your best.
Analyse your crew, filter out the negativity, and dedicate time to relationships. Remember -people who tell you that it cannot be done are usually unsuccessful people.
Make Your Attitudes Your Allies Attitudes are mirrors of the mind, they reflect thinking. When our attitude is right, our abilities reach a maximum of effectiveness and good results inevitably follow.
Grow three attitudes:
The attitude of “I’m activated” Results come in proportion to enthusiasm invested. Dig in deeper when you find yourself disinterested in something, learn more about it. This sets off enthusiasm.
Always try to have energy; your smile, your handshake, talk and walk. Act alive. Always broadcast good news. No one will ever accomplish anything positive telling bad news.
The attitude of “You are important” People do more for you when you make them feel important. When you help others feel important, you help yourself feel important too.
Practice appreciation. Practice calling people by their names. Don’t hog the glory, invest it instead.
The attitude of “Service first” Put service first and money takes care of itself. Give people more than they expect to get.
Think Right Towards People Success depends on the support of other people. The only hurdle between you and what you want to be is the support from others. A person is not pulled up to a higher level job, they are rather lifted up.
It is a mark of real leadership to take the lead in getting to know people. The person who does the most talking and the person who is the most successful are rarely the same person.
Turn Defeat Into Victory Study your setbacks to pave your way to success. Have the courage to be your own constructive critic, stop blaming luck. Blend persistence with experimentation and remember – there is a good side in every situation.
Think Like A Leader Achieving high-level success requires the support and the cooperation of others. Schwartz gave various principles on leadership.
Trade minds with the people you want to influence, try to understand them.
“Be-Human” in dealing with others , show that you put others before yourself. Think progress, believe in progress, and push for progress. Take time out to confer with yourself.
A scientist is always in a rethinking loop which enables discovery of new knowledge.
👉If knowledge is power, knowing what we don’t know is wisdom.
Develop Confident Humility
Humility isn’t about lack of self-confidence. It’s about being grounded.
👉Knowing that we are both flawed and fallible. Never losing sight of this reality. Confidence is about self belief.
Detaching Opinion from Identity
🚫We should avoid becoming too attached to our ideas and our beliefs. We shouldn’t let it become part of our identity.
👉When we let our ideas become part of our identity, we become hostile to the thought of being wrong.
Argue about HOW and not WHY
WHY conversations often get emotional and ego led, and people become dismissive of the others.
✅Once you start discussing HOW, people start noticing the gaps in their knowledge and the flaw in their conclusions and become less argumentative.
How to win debates and negotiate well
Instead of attacking to weakest argument, acknowledge their best one
Focus on fewer but stronger points
Ask questions
Changing mindsets through Motivational Interviewing
We can’t motivate people to change. We have a better chance helping them find their own motivation to change.
Keys:
Asking open ended questions
Engage in reflective listening
Affirming the person’s ability
Dealing with Polarised Mindsets
People operate with binary mindsets. Everything is black or white.
✅The solution lies in breaking this oversimplified extreme view by introducing complexity and nuance.
Rethinking for Kids
The practise of doing multiple drafts instead of just one. Especially in creative projects.
👉More drafts mean more rethinking, reworking, polishing and fine-tuning. Leading eventually to a higher quality output.
Learning Organizations
👉Combining Psychological Safety and Process Accountability to create a learning zone.
Honourable mention — Developing a culture of questioning by encouraging people to always ask “how do we know“.
Career Planning and Identity Foreclosure
🚫We need to stop asking kids what they want to do when they grow up.
✅The choice becomes part of their identity. We need to encourage them that careers are actions to take and not identities to claim. You live your life on auto pilot because you don’t know what to do with your life.
Obboo Abbaa Axadaas: Adaraa Waaqayyoo maaloo Abbaate dhiisaa An isan amanee …maaliif na gowwoomsa? Sila maaliif #saxxee, amma maaliif #nassaa? Jennaan Abbaateenis aariin of finiinsaa:
Amaloonni kunneen qorannaaf qo’annaa bara dheeraatin booda kan argamaniidha. Kitaabni kuni akka addunyaatti kan garmalee dubbifame keessaa isa tokko.
AMALOOTA TORBAN:
Be Proactive ⁃ Nama dursee yaadu, osoo rakkoon tokko hin dhalatiniin duratti nama itti qophaa’u ta’uu. Waan fagoodhaa namatti as deemaa jiru lafuma jala tilmaamudhaan itti qophaa’uu!
Begin with the end in mind ⁃ Waan tokko wayita eegalan kaayyoo dhumaa sammuu keessatti qabaachuu, waan hunda dura mul’ata isa dhumaatif xiyyeeffannaa guddaa kennuu. Gufuulee xixinnoo nama mudataniin sakaalamuu osoo hin ta’in kaayyoo keenya bira gahuuf kaayyeffanne sana yaadachuun jabaachuu.
Put first things first ⁃ Waan dursuu qabu dursuu. Waan hunda altokkotti galmaan gahuun waan hin danda’amneef wanta dursa kennuufii qabnu dura hojjechuu.
Think Win Win ⁃ Hariiroo namoota waliin qabnu keessatti gareen lameenuu haala itti injifatu irratti xiyyeeffachuu. Ofuma qofaaf milkaa’uu fi gammaduu osoo hin ta’in namoonni kan biroos akka gammadan yookin akka sababa keenyaan miidhaan irra hin geenye yaalii godhuu.
Seek First to understand and then to be understood ⁃ Namoonni maalif na hin hubanne jechuudhaan duratti namoota hubachuudhaaf yaaluu!
IT MAKES GOOD USE OF THE MAN’S ERECTION Most men wake up with an erection, it is good for this hardness not to go to waste
IT BOOSTS THE WIFE’S SELF-ESTEEM
When a woman wakes up naked to her husband admiring her, desiring her and wanting her; she ends up feeling sexy, beautiful and confident even before she dresses up
IT STARTS THE DAY RIGHT WITH INTIMACY The best way to say good morning is with intimacy. Sweet love making, kisses, heartfelt words and prayer
IT BRINGS OUT A GLOW When both the man and the woman feel loved up, they exude an inner positive vibe that others around them pick
IT GIVES YOU SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT THE WHOLE DAY
Through out the day, both of them will find each other smiling, reminiscing about the morning. Maybe they will even text or call each other just to connect
IT MAKES STAYING FAITHFUL EASIER
When your body is sexually satisfied in the morning, it is difficult to fall into temptation in the middle of the day. Unfaithfulness breeds where there is a vacuum
7.1T WAKES YOU UP PROPERLY
If you are sleepy or struggling to wake up, some good pumping, grinding, moaning, riding and touching will definitely wake you up
IT BLESSES THE CHILDREN
Because there is warmth in the bedroom in love making, that warmth will spread to the entire house with the children witnessing the love between mom and dad
IT CELEBRATES LOVE IN A NEW DAY
No matter how good or bad yesterday was, an episode of sweet love making sets the right tone today
IT MAKES YOU LOOK FORWARD TO COMING HOME Since the day started in a memorable way, both husband and wife will miss each other and will long to see each other later in the day.
Baay’ee jaalalli ishee yoo sitti cimellee ishee biratti nama jaalalaan miidhame of hin fakkeessin. Nama karooraan deemu ta’i. Dadhabbinakee ofirratti hin beeksisin. Kennaa adda addaa fi sossobaa akkasumas dhiifama gaafachuu itti hin heddummeessin ykn sirumaa dhiisi.
Baay’ee jaalalli ishee yoo sitti cimellee ishee biratti nama jaalalaan miidhame of hin fakkeessin. Nama karooraan deemu ta’i. Dadhabbinakee ofirratti hin beeksisin. Kennaa adda addaa fi sossobaa akkasumas dhiifama gaafachuu itti hin heddummeessin ykn sirumaa dhiisi.
Yoo ofiif balleessite ta’e dhiifama gaafachuu dandeessa. Kan isheen balleessiteef garuu kadhaa fi sossabaan tokko hin barbaachisu. Akka ati ishee jaalattu erga beektee, deemtee deemtee allaattii reenfi lafa isa jedhan san, ni deebiti. Garuu bilbilaa fi miiseejii itti hin baayisin.
Amalli shammarranii amala adurreetin tokko, yoo ati ariite si jalaa baqatti, yoo ati gattee sokkite si hordoftee dhufti. Kanaafuu madaala kee olkaasuu hin dagatin. |Iddoo kamittuu waan ishiin jettu qofan guuta jettee hin yaadin. Gaaf tokko tokko gammachiisi malee ishuma gammachiisuuf yeroo mara hin dadhabin.
Dubartiidhaf jaalalli irra caalli isaa hinaaffadha. Hawwii fi kajeelladhaan umurii ishii fixxi. Kanaaf halkanii guyyaa hawwisiisuu, hinaafsisuun si biraa hafuu hin qabu. Dubartiin ani simalee yoo jetteen of tuuluu barbaadu waan ta eef Carraa babal’aa baay’een akka jiru ishuma fuundura deddeemii itti agarsiisi.
GONKUMAA ABDII HIN KUTIN!!! ▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬ ❏ “Rakkattee osoo hin milkaa’in haftee yoo ta’e, kan si booda milkaa’u dhaloota tokkotu jira; osoo hin rakkatin milkoofte yoo ta’e garuu si dura nama rakkatetu ture.”
Oromoo
■ Dubbiin kun dhugaa dha. • Maalifan milkaa’uu dhabee? • Maalif milkaa’inni ana irraa fagaatee? • Maalif kufaatiin natti baay’atee? Jettee Komii ofii kee irratti nama irratti fi Waaqa irratti hin kaasin! • Yoo ofii kee rakkattee, dadhabdee milkaa’uu baatte, rakkina kee kanatti ilmi kee, dhaloonni si boodaa milkaa’uu danda’a.
Fakkeenya tokkon siif fudhadha.
■ Seenaa Dr. Maartiin Luuter King Juuniyeer waan beektu natti fakkaata. Inni bara isaa waggaa 38 jiraate keessatti mirga walqixxummaa gurraachotaaf falmu hoogganaa ture. Sababa kanaaf yeroo baay’ee mana hidhaatti darbatamaa akka ture rakkinni gurguddaan isa irra gahaa akka ture beekamaa dha. Haa ta’u malee mirgi gurraachotaa kabajamee, warri adii fi gurraachonni mirga walqixaa qabaatanii akka jiraatan osoo hin argin lubbuun isaa addunyaa kana irraa namoota badiin dabarte. Garuu inni ofii isaa rakkachaa turee milkaa’ina rakkoo isaa osoo hin argin du’u iyyuu, har’a ilmaan isaa bu’aa rakkina isaatii dhamdhamaa jiru.
■ Ilaali rakkina kee har’aa kana ilaaltee abdii hin kutin!
Diinni milkaa’inaa inni guddaan abdii kutuu dha. Waan hojjettu kamiyyuu hamma du’aatti yoo ta’e iyyuu cichii jabeessii itti fufi! Bor yoo duute iyyuu dhaloota boriif eebba taate duuta.
Dhaloonni si boodaa “rakkina inni rakkachaa ture nuti immoo har’a bu’aa isaa jiraanna” siin jechaa seenaa kee yaadachaa jiraatu.
■ Kufaatiin tokko gaafa si quunnamu deemsa gara galma milkaa’ina keetti gootu dheerina isaa gabaabfachaa jirta jechuu dha.
■ Imala gara milkaa’inaatti deemuu kee, karaa milkaa’inaa irra imalaa jiraachuu kee kan siif mirkaneessu kufaatii si mudachaa jiru dha.
■ Kufaatiin yoo si mudachaa jira ta’e, jabaadhu ati karaa milkaa’naa irra jirtaati. Garuu hamma yoonaa kufaatiin si mudatee hin jiru yoo ta’e ati milkaa’ina keef deemsa hin eegalle jechuu dha.
■ Namni osoo hin kufin milkaa’e nama hin hojjanne dha yookiin kufaatii nama biraatti kan milkaa’e dha.
■ Kufaatiin hammuma si mudachaa deemu; ofitti amanamummaa kee cimsaa, waan darbe irraa barachaa, karaa kaleessa irratti kufte irra akka hin deddeebine hubachaa, karaan biraa akka jiru xiinxalaa akka deemtu si gargaara.
■ Kanaaf kufaatii hin jibbiin kufaatiin daandii milkaa’inaa ti.
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